5 Tips for Coping with an Angry Ex

We all have one - an angry ex who can’t seem to leave the past alone. No matter how long it’s been since the two of you were together, he still seems to hold a grudge and can’t get past the things you did wrong in the relationship. If you still have to deal with an ex because the two of you share children, it can be difficult to deal with on a regular basis. With these 5 tips for coping with an angry ex, you can make the experience of seeing them a little less unpleasant in the future.

Establish Boundaries

If you don’t establish some boundaries your ex is going to continue to call, text, and harass you for as long you allow it. Set boundaries early and let him know just what you won’t tolerate. If he calls you and says something harsh, let him know you aren’t going to tolerate him speaking to you that way, and hang up the phone. You may only want to speak via text, rather than phone calls. Pick something that is the most comfortable for you and stick with it.

Take Time to Respond

Just because your ex sends an email doesn’t mean you have to respond to it that very second. Take the time to actually read it through and come up with a response that is as cordial as possible. This is better than reacting immediately and saying something that could just add fuel to the fire. A good strategy is to type your reply but don't send it right away. Read it again later and make necessary edits. This will prevent you from sending a reply you later wish you hadn't sent, and he'll forever have a copy of it.

Never Stoop to His Level

Taking the time to respond to your ex’s communications is ideal because it prevents you from stooping to his level. This is something you never want to do, as it ensures the cycle of vicious words and harsh thoughts continues. Even when he is being a pain, always respond as kindly as possible so you are not stooping to his level.

Apologize for Your Wrongdoings

Chances are, your ex isn’t the sole party responsible for the two of you splitting up. You probably did some wrong during the relationship as well. If he is still holding a grudge against you, it may be because he hasn’t had those issues resolved. Realize your part and apologize for the wrongdoings you did commit. It may help the two of you move past it.

Avoid Online Bashing

You may feel the urge to bash your ex online when he acts angry towards you or says things he shouldn’t. While we all get the urge to do this you should really do your best to avoid it. You never know which mutual friend will show your ex what you posted about him, which will just make him angrier.

Dealing with an ex is never easy, but by using these coping tips, you can make it much more bearable.