Tagged as relationships

Building and maintaining long-term loving relationships is one of the most challenging activities in which people engage. Relationships are exceedingly complex affairs. The bonds that sustain relationships – for better or worse – are built from what we say using our spoken words, what we communicate with the non-verbal parts of language (i.e., our voice tone and speech pace, body posture, facial expressions,...
February 20, 2016
There are about as many definitions of soul mate as you can imagine. We've been trying to define this term for literally thousands of years to no avail. I'll try to cut through the confusion by offering mine. A soul mate is a person with whom you feel a deep connection that may even defy logic.  For example, a soul mate can be a close friend who lives a very different life than yours, yet you pick...
January 16, 2016
Grandma and Grandpa just called to say they would like everyone to spend the holidays with them at their Florida condo. Just imagine: all the cousins going to the beach and playing in the pool together, all the adults sipping gin and tonics and having long overdue visits. It sounds like heaven, right? Um, well, maybe. For some, family holidays mean one thing: run the other way! - If you think parenting...
December 20, 2015
You fantasize about long, languorous sessions of lovemaking with your spouse, quickies before the kids rise, and steamy surprises in the afternoon. And yet—that’s not what is happening in your marriage. In fact you can’t remember the last time you and your spouse touched passionately. Suffering in a sexless marriage can be lonely and isolating. We live in a sex-negative world. Even though images of...
October 11, 2015
Oh, yes, they're watching! Teens may not always seem interested in what their parents are doing but when it comes to dating and love, they are watching every move. Here are some tips on how you can model healthy dating and help the next generation steer clear of some tough situations in their own relationships. Money Matters:- Dinner and drinks can add up to over a hundred dollars in no time. Finding...
June 17, 2015
Everything you would like to experience in Life is just beyond F.E.A.R. F-alse -E-vidence -A-ppearing -R-eal. In my last post-, I started to mention the tool of -T.A.C.T - T-elling the -A-bsolute -C-omplete -T-ruth. So TACT is a tool with which we remind ourselves about levels of truth and how we use them. Using TACT in your life does not give you permission to be hurtful, disrespectful or rude, however...
June 17, 2015
Dear James - I have recently left an abusive relationship. I am emotionally stuck, as I never have felt so much hate from another person before. I am getting older and want to know if there may be a healthy relationship in my future. Also, I want to grow spiritually so this never happens again. I want to create loving and healthy boundaries with my family and friends without feeling guilty if I do...
April 4, 2015
We live in a busy world. People we meet and people we know are often too busy to spend time together. It's through connection that our souls get recharged. Research continually shows that those who have social connections are healthier and live longer, more joyful lives. Things often change when someone is diagnosed with a chronic or life-threatening illness. The social lines get blurred and many who...
February 19, 2015
The Power of Our Words - If we look closely at the definition of a word, it simply means a symbol or element of speech or writing.In the English language there are many words, which we use to communicate with others. It is the type of words we use, and how we express them that can make all the difference in our relationships with others. Words that cause hurtful feelings, belittle others, or create...
February 15, 2015
Many years ago I had a conversation with my wife that could have ended our marriage. And I have seen many couples engaged in the exact same cycle of relationship destruction. Here's what happened: - My wife said something to me and I responded back. She accused me of having a “tone." Who, me? - So now I am defending my “no tone." - She now says something back with a “tone" in her voice. So I escalate...
November 11, 2014