Kindness Starts With Our Words

The Power of Our Words

If we look closely at the definition of a word, it simply means a symbol or element of speech or writing.In the English language there are many words, which we use to communicate with others. It is the type of words we use, and how we express them that can make all the difference in our relationships with others. Words that cause hurtful feelings, belittle others, or create exclusion are the most damaging to all of us. The true ability to communicate with others in a kind manner starts with being mindful of our thoughts and emotions. It is only when we use words that promote lively debate and foster good relationships, can we begin our journey toward a kinder society.

Actions Speak Louder Than Words or Do They?

In today's world we are seeing more anger on the roadways, in the workplace, and in our personal lives. When we display this type of emotion, we are creating a negative atmosphere that affects all of us. In the news recently we have been learning about an escalation of “bullying" on the Internet. It appears that our words are being used “anonymously" in some very hateful ways. This example is just one of many that indicate a far greater and deeper problem in our society. We appear to be moving away from our ability to express ourselves without being hurtful. We often talk about how our actions reflect who we are, but at a greater extend our words maybe more revealing than our actions.

Communicating with others

The key to positive relationships starts with our choice of words. The way in which we communicate can have positive or negative consequences in our personal and professional lives. We can get our points across if we can communication in a way that is not disrespectful, unkind, and derogatory. In fact if we can communicate with respect and kindness we can achieve far more from the interaction. Everyday we interact with someone, be it in the grocery store, our yoga class, or while driving in our cars. The way we communicate gives others a glimpse into how we are as an individual. Even if we disagree, we can keep an open dialog if we consider our choice of words.

Delivering Our Message

The words we use can positively or negatively affect others. It is up to us to deliver the message with a kinder approach. It is important that as we hurry ourselves in our busy lives that we try to be kinder when dealing with others. A thank-you at the grocery store checkout, a friendly hello and thank-you when others have provided us services is a great start. How many times have we thanked the server at our favorite restaurant? When we communicate with others in a kind and caring way, we demonstrate the essence of the following saying,

“Before you speak, let your words pass through three gates. At the first gate, ask yourself, “Is it true?" At the second gate ask, “Is it necessary?" At the third gate ask, “Is it Kind" –Sufi saying.

Let us consider the words we use to express ourselves, and begin a campaign to be kinder and more considerate. If we can just try to be more thoughtful in our words, we can begin to create a healthier society for all.