Posts by Roni Weisberg-Ross

Sticks and stones may break my bones but ... bullying and name-calling can emotionally scar me forever. Not the original ending to the classic verse, but probably the more accurate one. It seems that broken bones will heal far more quickly than a battered soul. Does this sound overly dramatic? Not according to a study conducted by Florida State University and published in the Journal of Affective Disorders....
12/21/2013 6:46:52 AM
Why would a woman who was sexually abused as a child have rape and submission fantasies that sexually excite her as an adult? Why would another woman who suffered physical abuse as a child now enjoy role-playing dominant/submissive sex games? Why would a man raped or taunted by classmates as an adolescent now be unable to perform sexually or another man who was repeatedly berated by an emotionally...
12/21/2013 6:45:41 AM
"A Social Problem Does Not Exist For A Society Until It Is Recognized By That Society To Exist" - H. Blumer The following is the first of a three-part series of articles: It was in a high school literature class that I was first introduced to the Oedipus Complex, defined as "a boy's unresolved desire for sexual gratification through the parent of the opposite sex, especially the desire of a son for...
12/21/2013 6:44:52 AM
"There is no other closeness in human life like the closeness between a mother and her child. Chronologically, physically and spiritually, they are just a few heartbeats away from being the same person" * This is the darkest secret of them all. It challenges societal expectations and myths more than any other form of sexual abuse. It infers sex between a mother and a daughter as well as homosexuality....
12/21/2013 6:43:47 AM
There weren't a lot of statistics, because no one thought it was a problem. But then in 1990, Ramsay-Klawsnick found that adult females were abusers of male adolescents 37% of the time and of female adolescents 19% of the time; and in six studies reviewed by Russell and FInkelhor, female perpetrators accounted for 25% or more of those abused. In 1996, The National Center on Child Abuse and Neglect...
12/21/2013 6:41:09 AM
A while back, I jotted down some thoughts about a person I called "The Other Parent". Since then, I've been collecting information and have concluded that there is a dearth of material on this subject. But I have expanded upon my initial ideas and hopefully this will be lead to more research data in the future. These were my initial thoughts: I've been experiencing a lot of counter-transference lately...
12/21/2013 6:40:34 AM
Even though there can be life long debilitating psychological effects, sibling abuse may be the most ignored - if not accepted - form of domestic (i.e. sexual, physical, emotional) abuse. Why is this kind of abuse ignored or minimized? There is a lot that is swept under the rug in the guise of "sibling rivalry". And American law does not consider this a prosecutable offense unless a child is turned...
12/21/2013 6:39:57 AM
An examination of both the victim and the perpetrator. Child sexual abuse is as much about power and domination as it is about compulsion. The object - female, male or both - is a reflection of erotic imagery and fantasy. But the action encapsulates repressed rage that treats the sexual act as a weapon against the victim. This is true of the incestuous relationship as well; although it is more likely...
12/21/2013 6:38:46 AM
Let's begin by talking about Domestic Abuse in general - how it is regarded and dealt with in our culture. As a psych intern I was taught that we must report Child Abuse, Elder Abuse, a credible threat by one individual to physically harm another or a credible threat by an individual to physically harm him or herself. So we do protect children, elders and people who are about to be harmed. However,...
12/21/2013 6:37:39 AM
"All cruelty springs from weakness" (Seneca, 4BC-AD65) There are those who say that bullying is behind all forms of violence, conflict, persecution, abuse, harassment, discrimination and prejudice. The recent death of Phoebe Prince, the 15-year-old Massachusetts girl who hanged herself after being harassed by a group of students in her school, puts a spotlight on bullying among teenagers. And there...
12/21/2013 6:35:02 AM