Find an equal - someone who I have chemistry with, rather than just a dude that I'll settle for

I need someone who can keep up mentally with me, actually I want someone who is faster than I am. I have not found anyone who fits the bill. There has to be some physical attraction, this is not accomplished with salami down the boxers, okay guys? Women (I hope I am not alone in this) look at the entire package (no pun intended). I would rather have a funny, smart and dedicated man that is not necessarily a pretty boy than a pretty boy with NOTHING GOING ON UPSTAIRS. I need someone with something to say and who can bring stuff to the table other than their libido. If I hear how small a dude is on the first date - you just lost me. I don't care if you are Ron Jeremy. Are you a considerate lover? Do you weigh under 300 lbs? Sounds terrible, but I can't get attached to someone who is going to die on me. My best friend scares me. I love him so much but I cannot watch him die.\n\nIf I had a man who was willing to be my partner for better or worse, treat me like a wonderful, intelligent woman should be treated, he would be the happiest dude on earth. Let's just say I am very skilled. I understand that men need the physical release - too often we ignore their needs and use sex as a weapon. Just as we need affection (non-sexual) a man needs the sexual in his soul. We need to stop withholding the love, ladies. They need it to feel like a man. Just because you don't need sex, and he's not pressing you to it, I'll bet he's coming to me to get a sensual massage just to have a beautiful woman treat him like the wonderful man he is. Though your negligence really helps my pocket book, stop holding out on them. Give them oral for 10 min and watch that man light up and bend over backwards for you. It's not that hard, and HE IS WORTH IT.