TEN GOLDEN RULES OF SPIRITUAL HEALTH

What is the solution to evils of xenophobia:

There are 10 solutions. We start one by one in the order of importance.

1. RE-EDUCATING THE PARENTS (PROPER PARENTING)

Proper parenting is the most responsible act and involves complex issues. Therefore, we have to discuss proper parenting first and what it means.

Proper parenting is the process of raising and educating a child from birth, or before, until adulthood. Raising a child properly means giving the proper education to the child. As mentioned before, the earlier it starts the better it is for the child (the future adult). The first and foremost educators in child’s life are the parents. Therefore, it is of immense importance that parents have the proper education themselves first.

The goals of human parenting are usually to provide for children's emotional, intellectual and spiritual needs, protect them from harm, and impart in them skills and cultural values until they reach legal adulthood, usually after adolescence.

Therefore, one of the most important responsibility of parenting is to secure child’s development emotionally, intellectually and spiritually.

Emotional development refers to the conditions in which a child's mind can develop securely and peacefully. If the child's dignity is safe, i.e. nobody encroaches upon a child physically or verbally, he/she is able to develop with emotional security.

We discussed ten golden rules in child’s proper emotional development and ten golden rules in child's proper intellectual development that parents have to bear in mind all the time.

Now we continue with 10 golden rules of spiritual development in the child.


TEN GOLDEN RULES OF SPIRITUAL HEALTH


1. Know your limits


Real success is not measured by what you are driven to achieve, but by knowing what you are capable of achieving.

You can save yourself from lot of disappointments if you formulate your goal within the framework of your capacity to achieve it.



2. Let go



Letting go is the natural release which always follows the realization that holding on hurts.

Those who lack spirituality always follow the path of perpetual failure. It is due to the fact that they remain preoccupied in things or people that have caused them some hurt in life. Little they realize that it is the holding on that hurts the most rather than vice verse. Forgiveness is the spiritual bliss that heals all your inner hurts.



3. Don't torment yourself



Why seek answers to tormenting questions when it is well known that there is no gain from torment. So simply drop those painful questions. Soul is born free, lives free & dies free without any torment.

People don't realize that we are at the very first ladder of evolution. We have long way to go. We may never reach there to find answers to our inquisitive mind's limitless questions. There are questions which are difficult and to pursue the answer is tormenting. No one knows the answer to these questions. Not yet anyway. There is no point in seeking answer to questions which are unanswerable or may never be found at least in our given life time. Human soul is designed to be free from any torment of any kind.



4. All "UPSETS" are mis-perceptions



See the "UPSET" not as an exterior circumstance to be remedied, but as an interior condition to be understood.

There is nothing more upsetting than the wrong perception of a situation. In the Laws of Nature all actions result in equal and opposite reaction. As long as the response is equal, it will not be a cause for alarm. If one has the guidance of strong spiritual force within oneself, the response is always equal. This force does not come from outside. It lives inside you. If you get too upset by any exterior circumstance, it is a problem within yourself. Learn to understand your self not the circumstances surrounding you. Remember all upsets are illusions. These illusions exist only in your mind through your own false perception of the events surrounding you.



5. Let your "Secret Inner Strength" shine



The highest spiritual being, the most powerful force, lives right within your own heart. If you are unable to see it, it is your own fault.

All our weaknesses really are not ours, but are taught to us in our early childhood by misguided people (including sometimes the parents, teachers & religious counselors). Whatever we are, we are the product of the nurturing elements in our early life. If these elements (parents, teachers religious counselors etc) are misguided themselves (as in most cases they usually are), our chances of finding the force within our self is virtually none.



6. Learn to unlearn what you have learned wrong



Letting go all your weaknesses is finding out what you are not i.e. you are “NOT WEAK”. The only way you can do this is to develop the courage to unlearn all what you had learned wrongly in your life (mainly in your childhood), which made you weak.

Human child is born weak and helpless. Nevertheless, it has the potential to become the most powerful force that can conquer all the mountains of hurdles of the universe. The key is the proper parenting and the guidance of our early childhood counselors. If we did not receive the proper parenting (and in most circumstances we never do), we are doomed.

The only way we can get out of this jam is to unlearn everything we were taught wrongly. It is not easy. It needs lot of self-searching. You may never reach there if you are not determined to do so in the first place. Most people are resigned to the fact that they are week and look for some mystical and supernatural outside force to help them achieve their goals. That is a “learned behavior” that we learned wrongly through our parents and other role models. This ought to be discarded. As mentioned before, the true force lays right within us. Within our heart.





7. Don't always ask others to approve of you.



It is an illusion. There will be always as many people who may approve of you, and just as many who may not.

All our problems stem from the fact that we like to seek approval of others no matter what we do. We must understand the reality that we can never have all the people approving us all the time (no matter what we do). A self disciplined spiritual person never seeks approval of others. The fact that no one and no discipline is perfect is an assurance in itself. It creates self-confidence in ones own ability of knowing that one has attained a higher conscious already. And that is what true spirituality is all about.



8. Happiness lives within our own self.



Chasing after outside pleasure to ease your pain is like chasing after a breeze to cool you down. Pleasure & happiness always comes from within you & not from any outside source.

No material wealth in the world can make you happy unless you are satisfied within yourself. People seeking material wealth to gain happiness live in a false and delusional world. They will never find happiness even if they find all the material gains, power, control etc. Your own heart is the fountain of happiness.



9. You are born free, so live free.



Real freedom is the absence of the self that feels trapped, not the trapping that the self requires to make it feel free from. In other words we are all trapped in our wrongful upbringing by our caretakers in our early childhood. We falsely believe that following these trappings faithfully will set us free. Get rid of this myth.

Our belief system in the early childhood is like the belief a child has in Santa Clause. This myth is usually shattered when a child reaches the age of seven. Unfortunately most people never get rid of this myth of false belief in some supernatural being (like Santa Clause or God) which provides them some solace. Little they know that solace comes from within their own self and not from any outside supernatural force or even outside God. True God lives in your own heart. Search within your own self and you will find it.



10. Never worry and never fear.



The only thing you lose when you let go of something you are afraid to live without is "The Fear Itself". Therefore, don't be afraid to let go of all the myths you were wrongly taught while growing up.



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Next we shall continue with the summary of spirituality and what parents must know.


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