The Number One Reason Why You Can’t Lose Weight

Everything we do stems from our belief systems. Your self-image is responsible for all that you do. Take a step back and think about how you feel about yourself and then take note of how you live. Can you see how your deepest thoughts and feelings are reflective in your life experiences?

If you see yourself as “fat” then your body will manifest that which you believe, resulting in wanting to eat more and exercise less. It’s your perception of yourself that keeps you where you are. If you struggled with your weight last year you probably are this year too, because your self-image is that of being overweight.

Everything in your life is an expression of how you see yourself within your mind’s eye, including your body. Your self-image reflects back in all that you do: the actions you take, the choices you make, and even how you dress.

False Beliefs Create a False Self-Image

Many of us have false beliefs about ourselves that create a false self-image. These limiting beliefs stem from the environment we were raised in or by circumstances and events throughout our lives, such as a difficult divorce.

When you see yourself a certain way, no matter how much you want to change, your self-belief will keep you where you are—unless you change your perception of you.

Can you see how your world mirrors your beliefs? Your life and body as it is right now was created by your self-beliefs and pattern of thought.

Your mind is your most powerful tool of creation—what you think about most you bring about—including your body shape and size.

For instance, when you think about your weight, do you tell yourself “I need to lose weight; I’m too fat”? If so, then your self-image is that of being “fat.” Your body then takesaction to become what you believe.

If you think “I have to lose weight” and try all the latest fad diets, any weight you lose will come back because your body is always a perfect expression of your self-image, which is being overweight.

Change Your Pattern of Thought

To change your body you must first change your self-image from that of being overweight to being the ideal body weight you desire to be. Rather than focus on needing to lose weight, focus on being “lighter, thinner, and fit.” The subconscious mind doesn’t like deprivation so rather than focusing on “lose” focus on “thin.” Your body will then begin to let go of fat easier. You will start to crave healthier foods and exercise as a way to manifest what you are thinking about most—being healthier and weighing less. 

To shift yourself-image, begin by changing your inner dialogue and patterns of thought. You deserve to have the body of your dreams. Claim your heath today, starting by thinking kindly of yourself. Express love to yourself when you look in a mirror. Stop putting yourself down when you make a mistake. Changing your pattern of thought will shift your mindset from having doubtful, unloving thoughts to having empowering, “I can do this!” thoughts that will enable you to accomplish your goals and dreams.

Begin today to take focused action in the direction of your goals. Love everything about yourself. See yourself healthier, thinner, and happier as if you have already accomplished your desired weight-reduction goals.The more you think lovingly of yourself the more you will believe that you really can achieve your ideal bodyweight and the happiness you want.

Carol Whitaker is the author of Ridiculously Happy! The Secret to Manifesting the Life & Body of Your Dreams. Carol is a highly sought after Life Transformation Expert and Lifestyle Fitness Coach. Carol is a Media Expert for ABC4 GOOD THINGS UTAH and Motivational Speaker. She is passionate about inspiring and motivating women to create and manifest the life and body of their dreams. Carol is a featured expert on national media and online websites. Carol is a happily married mother of 3.  Connect with Carol on her profile LinkedIn and Facebook to receive her health, fitness and happiness tips and by following her on Twitter. Visit to learn more.

1/5/2016 10:00:00 PM
Carol Whitaker
Written by Carol Whitaker
Carol Whitaker is the author of Ridiculously Happy! The Secret to Manifesting the Life & Body of Your Dreams. Carol is a highly sought after Life Transformation Expert and Lifestyle Fitness Coach. Carol is a Media Expert for ABC4 GOOD THINGS UTAH and Motivational Speaker. She is passionate about inspiring and motivating ...
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If you haven't read anything by Dr. Caroline Leaf (or watched any of her videos) you should. She's a neuroscientist who has focused on the power of the thoughts and what they physically do to the brain & body.
Posted by Laura S
great information
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Well.... there is no question that self-image is important. It probably does affect how hard you try to improve yourself. But it is very difficult to see yourself accurately. Or change that self image. Whenever looking at myself in a mirror, I always saw a skinny little runt with a pot belly. A few years ago, I saw a video of my (2X NCAA champion) teammate, and thought, "Boy, Mikey sure has bulked up his muscles!" He then turned around, and it turned out to be me! Whoa! Obviously, I had a poor self-image, which I immediately learned to ignore. My body fat was 2.4% two years later at the Olympic training center, when I beat Mikey and became an alternate for the USA wrestling team to the World Games. So intellectually, I know I didn't have a pot belly. Now that I'm middle aged, I've learned to pay attention to the tape measure and the scales; neither of which lie. My body image still sucks, even when I'm maxing out on many of the weight machines at the local gym.
What goes on in my head, as to how much I exercise and eat--and *why*--is what is really important; not my self-image.
Posted by Tihamer Toth-Fejel
I saw myself as fit, I was fit for years. One day I caught a full figure reflection in the mirror at JC Pennys and I was SHOCKED to see that fat man looking back at me.
Posted by Johnny Rudick
I used to think what you said is the KEY. BUT - I found out the key is that I was addicted to sugar. I highly recommend the book: "Eat to Live' by Joel Fuhrman, M.D. It changed my life. You can 'believe' all you want BUT you still need the TRUTH re: WHY you have compulsions to eat the way you do. I have already lost 20 lbs., and have more energy than ever.
Posted by resharpen
Such a great and informative post. Thanks for sharing and keep posting. This will really help people to achieve a healthy body.this blog is really amazing to work out.Keep sharing these type of informative blog.very Useful information.
Posted by superhumanradio
Thx so much Carol. I needed that reminder! I just need to print this off and post it around my house to constantly remind me of my self-talk so I can improve both on the inside and the outside!
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