Yes, Virginia There Really Is Holiday Blues

Every year at this time, we wish for a White Christmas and a Happy Hanukkah. And every year many of us fight off the holiday blues and even depression. First, let me put a popular myth to rest. There are NOT more suicides at this time of the year. In fact, a study out of the University of Pennsylvania last year found that there are actually 40% less suicides.

That does not mean that the blues and depression do not exist because they do. This year they may be even more prevalent because of our economy. But take a trip around your many neighborhoods to get an idea of how to fight them. There are more houses lit up than last year. Perhaps a way some people are fighting the recession?

The blues come from unrealistic expectations about relationships, family, finances, fatigue, and food.

Our expectations about holiday romances are usually blown way out of proportion to the actuality of the situation. Not all romances should end with the big ring under the tree. Just ask yourself if you want to be with this person for a long term relationship or are you caught up in the excitement and then disappointment of not getting the big ring for the holidays.

Family is another area of unrealistic expectations. If people do not get along the rest of the year, they will not necessarily get along just because you have holly in your heart. Have realistic expectations and you will not be disappointed. The Family Miracle happened over 2000 years ago.

Finances are another big reason for the blues. Everything is more expensive this year and in less supply. The kids want everything and there is no money for everything. The lists of those we buy for keeps getting longer. Instead of getting the kids everything, get them a few great things. They will be just as happy - wait and see. And for those long lists: draw names so you only have one expensive gift to buy not ten. This way you do not have to deal with opening the credit card bills in January. Make a budget and stick to it no matter what.

Fatigue is another cause of holiday blues. Set realistic goals and expectations on what you can do with the shopping, baking and cooking. Make it real not just a vague list of things to do. Make a list and prioritize from the most important things to do to the least important. This makes tasks more manageable. Spread the work and holiday cheer over many days not just one or two days. Remember we have 12 days of Christmas and 10 days of Hanukkah.

Food can do you in during the holidays. We all over-indulge. Just watch what you eat and drink and make it in moderation. Remember the high carb diet make you tired and sleepy, thus not able to accomplish what you want to do.

Enjoy each day as each day, not a day to get through.
Now for those of you who do have depression. How to fight it during the holidays is not always easy but it is possible. Do not read the newspapers, turn off the television and learn to say good things about others and the time of year. Wish people a Happy Holiday. To spread good cheer, get out and get exercise. Relax and takes deep breathes during the day. Write a postcard to one of our military away from home and without family. Think of someone else. It does help.

Whether you have the blues or suffer from depression and are alone during the holidays, get out and be with people. Volunteer to help serve dinner and the Salvation Army, homeless shelter or church or synagogue. The gratitude of others and the good you feel in helping will elevate your mood and make the holidays a better time for both you and others.

Remember to rest, relax, eat and drink in moderation and get out to celebrate with others, even strangers. The more you spread the Holiday Cheer, even with strangers, the happier and more content your holidays will be.

I wish all my readers and happy and healthy holiday season and one of good cheer.

MJ Bovo, M.D.
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