My history with Ray Estefania is a curious one that has come full circle... I started working with Ray over 4 years ago as I desperately searched for someone to help my son... At a time when I was devastated and paralyzed with fear and pain, he was able to guide me through the most heart wrenching and difficult decisions a parent must make with compassion, certainty and a firm and honest hand when necessary....His counsel, expertise and excellent treatment recommendations helped my son recover from a lifestyle that would have undoubtedly landed him in jail or taken his life. He helped me to save my son's life for which I will be forever greatful....
But Ray's work doesn't end with the intervention and treatment of the patient, his services provide help for the entire family by providing counseling, education, after care and coaching. It was during this process where I slowly started to come to grips with the reality that my husband had a substance abuse and alcohol addiction. It took me 1-1/2 years after my sons treatment to deal with my own denial, guilt and anger toward my husband... Truthfully, I minimized the severity of the problem all along because somewhere deep inside, I knew I certainly had something to do with this... This brought me to the next phase in my life where we worked with Ray. Once again, he successfully led us through another difficult and painful journey of recovery. His recommendations of different programs at different stages of my husband's recovery were right on every time.
At the same time that he provided me with incredible support and guidance while my husband was away in treatment, he began to address a central issue in all individuals who live with any type of addictive behavior: codependency, namely, me!! After 30 years of care taking, enabling and rescuing (due to many circumstances in my life), Ray somehow made me comprehend that I too needed help, that I too was "addicted." This was probably one of the most difficult things for me to admit and accept throughout this whole process, but after so many years I was finally ready. For the third time now, Ray helped me to successfully make the best choices for treatment and support that fit my needs and circumstances.
I truly believe one of Ray's "knacks" is how he is able to fit a program with each person's individual needs and personality. His knowledge of addiction and mental health coupled with his familiarity and liaisons with programs across the world, allow him to successfully pair that individual's or family's needs with the precise treatment type and program. What started out as my son's individual journey turned into the 4 year journey of an entire family... Ray helped us to navigate through experiences and circumstances that would tear most families apart. It has been a long, hard, painful process which continues everyday, but the results have been liberating and healing.Today I am blessed to live in a home where there is sobriety, respect, honesty and so much more peace and unity amongst its family members. Thank you Ray, for helping me save my son, my husband and helping me to face my own demons... God did hear my prayers!
by JTR
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January 03, 2015