Lili Daoud

Lili Daoud
Center for Cognitive Therapy 176 West Main Street Avon, CT 06001
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Lili is one of the best in her field. If your willing to do the work she assigns & are committed to treatment she is truly one of very few qualified CBT therapists in the area. She has trained with the best minds in her field & has experience treating adults as well as children. She received her training from the Albert Ellis Institute if you don’t know what that is google it you’ll see! She does accept some insurance, regardless if she’s in your insurance network or not DO NOT hesitate to make an appointment her rates per session are affordable, very reasonable & the service she provided was priceless! I was paying a therapist in NYC $400 per session & continued to do so for years! We had great conversations & I faithfully returned every month for 4 + years, but after all that time & money he did nothing to actually help me with my OCD & anxiety! It wasn’t until I found Lili that my life truly changed!
by West Hartford, CT xxx.xxx.94.168
September 19, 2022
Excellent , helpful and empathetic counselor
by Helen xxx.xxx.89.152
October 03, 2019
I went to Lili at the recommendation of a therapist I had been seeing for a few years, who was helping me cope with unabating anxiety/panic. I was feeling completely hopeless, doomed to live the rest of my life with the disorder.

Within the first couple of sessions, Lili helped me make a quantum shift in my thinking, through the use of the CBT skills. She gave me the work and explained how it helps, and doing the work has helped me in fundamental ways.

I would wake up daily with anxiety about the day, my stomach in knots, dreading the day. Now, with the tools that Lili has empowered me with, those feelings for the most part have gone away, replaced with a new way of thinking. I am always a work in progress, and after Lili's sessions, I am in a better place and on a better path.

The most important thing to do is the homework that Lili gives you. Doing the work pays off in immeasurable dividends and can help change your life for the better. It sure helped me.

Thank you Lili for your professionalism, your eagerness to help me, and your deep understanding of how CBT can help change a person's life for the better.
by David A. xxx.xxx.166.181
October 02, 2017
Lili has been everything I needed and more. I've struggled with anxiety my entire life but it was mostly situational. But 3 months ago I experienced my very first panic attack. I've never felt anything worse in my life. It was extremely debilitating and stole my freedom, sanity, and love for life. It prayed upon my worst fears and caused intrusive thoughts that I never in million years would think I would be capable of thinking. There were moments where I felt totally disconnected from anything and everything. There was no way I could escape myself, so one night after having a panic attack I relentlessly searched the internet for a therapist and I just so happened to find the person that I feel I was meant find. I consider her my angel.

Lili is amazing beyond words. My first meeting with her she explained that she can treat anxiety/panic attacks in 2-3 sessions in SOME cases ... I thought in my head "yeah right lady - you'll be seeing my face every week for the next year". But thankfully I was wrong, I had a total of 4 sessions and I no longer have panic attacks or torturing myself with inconceivable thoughts. She's compassionate, non-judgmental, intelligent, and knows exactly what she is doing. She has many years of experience and also knows first hand about anxiety disorders - which for me is better therapy because it's an unsaid understanding that brings you comfort. If you're seeking help, new tools on how to deal with your situation, or a caring heart to
help you heal - PLEASE make an appointment with Lili. You will only benefit your self and life from seeing her.
by Teresa xxx.xxx.93.186
February 04, 2017
This therapist called DCF to investigate us. The DCF worker asks my husband why I said my stepson “B.G.” eats like a dog. My husband lowers his face into a plate and asks “how do you describe this?”. The DCF worker says “Eating like a dog. I don’t know why that’s on there.” After talking to us, then to the therapist, the DCF worker dismissed the case without talking to BG until the mandatory 45-day follow-up.

How we got here:

For years, BG refused to learn basic behaviors like using soap, eating like a human, doing school work, and worse things that don’t belong posted online. We tried punishments and rewards, compliments and lectures, bribes and modeling behavior. Only yelling was effective. So we got him therapy.

One year and 1,600$ later, he still eats like a dog, etc and this therapist insists to me that our parenting (lecturing) is ineffective. Finally I demanded more effective alternatives, but all she had was “but it’s ineffective!” and we should stop. The kid is smart and not disabled, but we should just stop teaching the kid to use soap and utensils because it’s ineffective and makes him sad.

After BG stopped improving, we decided to stop seeing her. At the start of the last session, she said BG’s depression was cured because one week earlier he said he wasn’t sad.
At the end of that same session, she said BG is a deeply disturbed child who will need therapy for life and will never be ok again. Because that day he was a “ball of tears” in her office.
My husband wanted to ask her about this, but she wanted to talk to my husband about how the way I spoke to her (the day I fired her) was unacceptable. She also said she didn’t need us and good luck finding another therapist, the wait list is a year. Then she called DCF on us.

Her therapy is a purist form of CBT. This means wrong thoughts, like catastrophizing, “should”s and value judgments (“stupid”, “evil” etc) are removed. But… “should”s and value judgments are moral values! To her, ethics are a pathology. Unsurprisingly, she’s not a member of the APA, which is a set of voluntary ethical guidelines for therapists.

Her parents argued a lot when she was a kid, so she doesn’t tolerate disagreement. On her first session, I offered to work my “shoulds” as they concerned BG, but she make it clear all my shoulds had to go or she won’t work with me. My father was a dissident in Russia -- his moral values made him shelter Christians from communists during the time of the KGB. My values are not so heroic, but they tell me it’s a mother’s job to teach her kid not to eat like a dog.

BG did not do any of the homework the therapist assigned to him -- ever. She says “He can tell you he’s going to do it but it doesn’t mean he’s going to do it.” Disagreeing with her therapy is not ok, but simply not doing it is fine.

Our inability to disagree with her doesn’t stop her from disagreeing with and outright dismissing the diagnosis of prior therapists.

On the first session, she said she didn’t understand why anyone would go see the same ineffective therapist for years, just because that therapist was a nice person.
On the last session, she said BG needed a therapist for life because he needed a ‘safe space’ to talk about his feelings because he will never be fully healthy.
She became deeply offended when I asked if she was saying BG should keep seeing her for 100$ an hour just because he saw her as a friend. “I am a professional! How dare you imply I am his playmate!”. I reminded her she told him she was his friend in their first session, which is why he thinks that. She said it’s all part of her therapy and “I don’t care what he thinks!”

She also told me she didn’t care about his behaviour. It would have saved me many work days spent detailing his behavior (instead of working) if I’d known sooner that she really doesn’t care that he eats like dog, doesn’t use soap, or do his school or CBT homework.
She told me CBT needed to work on “specific things” so I spent a year telling her his behaviours. Then DCF got a complaint about my complaints.

At the time we both suspected he was autistic. (He wasn’t). I told her I didn't think he understood her parables. She said “I don’t care!” that he didn’t understand, that’s the way her scientifically proven therapy works.

The APA states you need to bring your disagreement to the therapist before filing a complaint with the APA (for APA members only). Don’t do that with her. She doesn’t like disagreement.

Still, I was willing to forgive her everything -- because I thought she was effective. After the last day of therapy BG became a normal boy, speaking in full sentences and using forks and spoons!

Then BG pointed out, as if it were blindingly obvious: “Haven’t you noticed I started getting better when Grammie died?” Grammie died a few weeks after we started therapy. Grammie had been telling BG that his daddy and I didn’t love him. That’s was why our parenting was ineffective.
We did not discover this in therapy.

When my parenting is ineffective (because of Grammie) I should stop it and let his self-destructive behaviors continue. Yet when 1,600$ of therapy is ineffective and we try to stop it, we get a call to DCF.

She also has issues with engineers. She says they always find their way into her office with their broken marriages. I also felt judged when she told me, on the last day, that BG would need therapy for life and that I needed therapy, etc. I have never felt judged for needing therapy in a therapist's office before.

I probably need a therapist, but I doubt I will ever go to one again.
by BG's Parents xxx.xxx.151.44
December 07, 2015
Did this provider answer all of your questions?
Yes
Was this provider's staff friendly?
Yes
Did you leave the office feeling satisfied with your visit?
Completely!
by Anonymous xxx.xxx.192.1
September 13, 2012
Did this provider answer all of your questions?
Every question I had was answered thoroughly
Was this provider's staff friendly?
Yes, they went above and beyond
Did you leave the office feeling satisfied with your visit?
Completely!
Was this provider's office easy to locate?
Absolutely! It couldn't have been easier!
by David. Drimd1@aol.com xxx.xxx.192.30
February 11, 2012
Ms. Daoud does not give good advice. If you have problems that can't be answered by her first response she will repeat herself over and over until you stop asking.

Her business practices are very poor and I will not be returning to her nor would I recommend her to anyone.
by James
December 01, 2011
Did this provider pressure you to purchase any unnecessary products during your visit?
Absolutely not! I was never uncomfortable
by Anonymous
May 13, 2011
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