Tagged as Parenting

A story by Riley Rose, age 6... Once upon a time there was a family and they all had phones even the baby. But one day the mailman plopped a chest of gold and you only have it for one day. But the parents were too busy to put things in their wallet. The next day the mailman took the chest. The next day they packed for vacation but they forgot the phone. They went on vacation and had shakes and chocolates...
August 16, 2018
When we hear the word “autism,” parents are terrified and hope the doctor is wrong. Here are the 7 things I wish someone had told me when Ryan was first diagnosed with autism: - 1. There is a lot of information out there and no one agrees on anything. Don’t allow this frightening diagnosis to overwhelm you. You know your kid best. You must learn to trust your gut. Stop looking for someone to do this...
August 16, 2018
What do parents fight about more than sex or money? Ask any parent: It's how to raise their children. The dilemma is that while both parents love their children, while they may even have agreed beforehand how to raise their children, while they may have read every parenting book ever published since 1950, nobody really knows what kind of parent they're going to be until they are actually confronted...
July 24, 2018
Here’s a secret to extending your life: Don’t argue or fight with your spouse, children, or friends. A number of research studies establish that your relationships are as important as your diet and your exercise for extending your life. Every time you argue with your kids, you are traumatizing them and shortening your own life. Researchers found that stresses related to excess demands, conflicts, and...
May 31, 2018
When I hear the term "unconditional love," I think of the incredible moment my son was born. Yet a parent's love can be virtually destroyed. Some of the most difficult moments I've witnessed as a therapist, when there wasn't an actual death, is when a parent is agonizing over a grown child whose destructiveness and emotional manipulation are squeezing out the last drops of unconditional love that parent...
May 5, 2018
Olivia calls her dad a s**t-head every chance she gets, but what she really wants to say to him is this: “Every time you talk to me you’re trying to make some point and it gets old. Plus, you think you’re being funny but it hurts my feelings and that’s why I don’t talk to you, not because I’m a “mopey teenager.” - Let’s unpack this conflict, and see how a father and daughter who are genuinely trying...
March 28, 2018
Remember the character Helen Parr (“-Elastigirl-”) in the animated Disney Pixar movie, -The Incredibles-? -The moms are always pulled in a million different directions, so I made her - stretch like taffy. Brad Bird, writer and director. That is one of the most perfect and succinct descriptions of motherhood I’ve ever heard. And even on the days we don’t think we can stretch one more inch, our young...
January 10, 2018
Every parent has a little catch in their throat when their child leaves for the first day of a new school year. No matter the age, this event has a lot of hopes attached to it. To get your child off to the best start, cast aside the issues over what kinds of sneakers to wear, backpacks to carry or school supplies everyone else has purchased. Focus on what -really -has the potential to place your child...
September 2, 2016
How often is it that we see people in our extended families and our community that believe that their family gets along just fine and doesn't have any problems, only to find that screaming, yelling, name calling, and physical aggressiveness is almost the norm? There almost seems to be a denial that there is a deeper issue, and because of this, the conflict continues and people believe that destructive...
March 31, 2016
Kids may say the darndest things—but toddlers seem to have the market cornered on defiant expressions of opinion. Your once sweet—but inarticulate—baby turns into a fountain of “No!” Sometimes, it may sound as if your two-year-old doesn’t like you much anymore: “No.” “Go Away!” “Mine!” “Stop!” But toddlers aren’t looking to make you mad. They’re just not yet fully fluent—at 24 months they only have...
December 24, 2015