Posts by Randy Stocker

What I learned after the deaths of my mother, Jean, and my two daughters, Jenelle-age 19, and Amy-age 9 to a distracted semi-truck driver is that things people say and do to help grievers can be perceived as both hurtful and insensitive by the people that are receiving the help. Below are five myths that need to be better understood.1. There is a “right way” to grieve. This statement is so wrong. Everybody...
6/5/2023 4:00:00 AM
You have most likely heard the saying, “Everybody Grieves Differently”. This goes for couples as well. Even though Char and I had been married for 21-years, the way we grieved after the death of our two daughters, Jenelle-age 19, and Amy-age 9, as well as my mother, Jean, was like night and day. I cried often—Char didn’t cry for four months.I knew instantly that I would never see them alive again....
3/29/2023 4:00:00 AM
My best friend’s child just died in a car accident. My friend is in shock. She is angry with the world. What do I say? What can I do to help her? According to the National Center for Health Statistics, over 200,000 people suffered accidental deaths in 2020. WOW!!! Death and grief are everywhere. From accidental deaths to Covid deaths to shootings and more.Almost everyone will grieve at some time, yet...
3/15/2023 4:00:00 AM
Wouldn’t it be nice if we could read the mind of someone who is grieving? We know that they are hurting from their loss, but they won’t accept our help or listen to our advice? They are asking themselves, “Why did this happen? Why can’t I cry? Why did God do this to me?” We really want to help, but just don’t know how. I lost my mother, Jean, and my two daughters, Jenelle-age 19, and Amy-age 9 to a...
1/30/2023 5:00:00 AM