Scheduling sex may seem like an unconventional task. You might feel that the act is something that should only occur when both you and your partner are in the mood. The problem with that thinking is that the daily tasks of life often get in the way for time in bed with the one we love. Scheduling sex can ensure the two of you get some alone time together, although there are both pros and cons to the situation.
One of the biggest pros is that you get some time for intimacy with your partner. Work, household chores, kids, and other daily tasks tend to get in the way of sex. While one of you may feel up to it, the other may be too tired to handle the task on certain nights. Scheduling sex and knowing exactly when you need to have it can help bring the spontaneity back. It will just take some time before that happens. Whether you schedule sex for once a week or once a month, at least be sure you’re making time for it so you and your love can get that connection started back up again. Try as hard as you can not to miss that “appointment.” A TV show called Parenthood once tackled this issue as a subplot. A husband and wife in the show were parents of 3 kids and led very hectic lives so they had a recurring weekly event set-up on their phone calendars. They called the event Funkytown.
One of the cons is the fact that you have to schedule your sex life. You may be tired or not feeling up to it that particular day, which will make you want to reschedule. Try not to do this, though. Whether you feel down, tired, or otherwise not in the mood for sex, keep to your schedule anyway so you can get that time you need with your partner. Once you do it a couple of times you’ll get used to the swing of things and it won’t feel like another chore on your to-do list.
Some people go months and even years without sex in a relationship simply because they have too many other things going on. Scheduling the time together can help make your relationship stronger and build that bond back up between you. It may have its cons at times, especially if you’re not in the mood, but the pros far outweigh the cons. So schedule your Funkytown!