What Are You Really Afraid Of? Women’s Top 4 Fears Comments

I could have related to this decades ago but made it all the way through w/o needing to be married. I feel I dodged a bullet as my choices in men were not the best & I also refused to marry for less than love. I have no extended family so that's sad-no one left. One brother who died young, left a 2yr old now grown who doesn't live near, but altho I try it's a one-sided "relationship". However, I'm not unhappy-I was mostly unhappy in those bad relationships I had. I have good friends, good activities, travel w/friends-some who leave husbands home b/c they don't like travel. Anyway, my biggest concern is finding the rt beneficiary now & their are many good options for that. I watched friends marry knowing they were not in love but felt it was getting late. I could never picture myself marrying someone w/o feeling I wanted to spend my life w/him so I didn't.

How sad to choose to live in fear and co-dependency. When we love and appreciate ourselves everyone benefits. So many women don't value themselves. I believe I am enough and I choose to appreciate each moment and value the people in my life. Why choose to live in fear?

Wonderful and insightful article.
I would like to read more of her wisdom.

This article makes the assumption that every human being - especially a female - needs to have a male or significant other to validate you they are. I'm 62 years old and single and love being single and not attached to anyone nor needing anyone to validate my existance or to tell me who I am and determine who I am. This world is set up for couples and families with children, and it ignores the large portion of us who are neither and happy about it.

thanks ramona for this awesome post... women shouldn't be worried for what others say and get depressed , she should face problems and defeat it .

Agreed. Women should not afraid of these as this is part of life and keeps going on. Thanks for sharing this with us.

Fear hurts relationships especially when you are not able to communicate and/understand those fears. Ramona Zabriskie has understanding these fears down to a science as well as mens' fears and how to not only deal with them but to truly understand each other. Check out her website!!

I can definitely identify with many of these fears. Identifying these fears can help me recognize how I can improve and overcome my weaknesses. I can see how recognizing these fears could turn a potentially devastating event into a positive experience, or even a step towards improving your relationships. Great insights Ramona!

Wow, these are right on!!! I never would have been able to identify them on my own, but I've definitely felt each of these fears!!

As a wife of 41 years, I can say I have had one or more of those fears at any given time and not wanting to be mistaken for weak or needy, rarely voiced or exhibited them outwardly. I would suspect most women don't. But certainly a fear at my age is knowing the certainty that either I will have to live without my husband at some point or he will have to live without me. This is something we've discussed and it scares and saddens us both. We don't dwell on it, but the older you get the more real it becomes.