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I'm a twenty something that is a newlywed of only a few months.
I'm the kind of person who grew up in a divorced household and
swore to myself I wouldn't go down that road. Lately I've found
myself in a rut and I get depressed a lot. This past weekend all I
wanted to do was run. I love my husband but I find myself not
wanting to have sex or to be touched. My husband pulls up the
past by saying you use to always want to have sex and do new
things and that hurts me because I feel like the same person but
am disgusted at myself for what he has to say. I've got a million
things on my mind and I just seem to be stuck and there's no way
out. I'm beginning to consider therapy for myself but psychologist
is such a scary word and it makes me feel crazy.

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[] HI, twenty year old

I read your notation. Seek counciling, what ever your thoughts are about therapists it sounds unhealthy, People need to have someone to talk to who are educated and not emotionally related to either you or anybody in discussion. Please do this for yourself as well as your partner. you owe it to your partner and yourself to stay healty for the relationship.
Obviously, you are both hurting, but you need to find out why things have changed, you think this is small, maybe, but it will only become huge, if you don't work on yourself and your committment.
Life has many ups and downs and once you get through one there will be another, sureley, along the lines (thats why you have to keep the mind healthy). you need to stay honest and open with your partner, marriage is a committment, friendship, as well as something that needs nourturing and has alot of responsibility. Be responsible for you and your role you vowed to up- hold.   I hope to encourage you to make improvements for a better understanding of yourself for your future and what's up ahead. If you don't, things may get by for a while but you won't escape your confusion or pain. My best wishes to you.