Disconnect yourself from the others. Connect into yourself!

During I lot of time I lived connected to the people. Not in the good sense, of being only one life beating for we all, but that in the sense of connection for dependence, attachment, necessity of approval. With the excuse of wanting to help, I remained on to the people, repassing my knowledge, assisting with my force of work, giving creative ideas only to solve problems or giving affection and support, therefore I believed in that time, it was my duty as daughter, as sister, as woman, at last, as an human being.
However, internally, I waited a kind of return, which in my mind had to be in equal measure and persistence. Despite of that, not everybody want or have this disposal to dedicate themselves to us, even because they have to dedicate to themselves. And this, for sure, already gives a lot of work and occupies much time.
Then, I started to perceive that my life was being unbalanced in relation to those who I've helped. And, while they prospered and went forward, I was always behind.
So, I've asked myself why that was happening. In the end, I understood that, while I was giving my aid - in the majority of the times not requested - I was giving up of own life, therefore I didn't have time for me, and if I had a little of it, I was so tired emotionally . That's because I lived in accordance with the feelings expressions from the others: if they were happy, I was happy; if they were upset, I was in agony; if they were annoyed, I believed it was my fault, etc.
However, I also questioned me about the charity and it was clearly for me that the charity is valid only when we make it without calculation, and mainly, when we do not make of it a comparison question, in placing us above or below from who receives our favors.
Therefore, with all well understood, I felt inside of me that it was the moment to detach me from the others; that it was the moment to connect me into myself, and I started to supply my proper necessities.
I understood that it was perfectly possible to feel joy without having nobody close to me; that I could amuse myself without guilt and that I didn't need to be always available, mainly if this would harm me of some way; I've learned to say no, to take care of me, to concentrate in my proper projects and dreams and to see people just as they are, accepting them and understanding them, but never more placing them over me in importance.
Therefore, if you still live as I lived, you have to free yourself. There is still time for you arrange your luggage and follow your way to your own destiny. If the others want to follow you, excellent. If not, do not be sorry. You are complete, rich and irreplaceable and capable to fill all your life by yourself.